There is a new reality show as if life can get much better. “Married at First Sight” has aired on A&E where couples meet for the first time at “their wedding” then have a few weeks to decide whether to “stay” married.

I have to admit I did not watch this show, I find it too much of an act of desperation, it may be just me because I’m at the stage of my life where I really don’t need to be married, but what does it say about the individual seeking desperate to be married? Are they really confident in themselves, what is wrong with accepting the “cards” they are dealt are play this cards in a different way. If the goal is to have a child or children, what is wrong with adoption, sure it may not be the “ideal” goal, but sometimes goals need to be revamped or changed. It’s all about mindset.

I’m aware arranged marriages happen and I’m sure this type of arrangement, where the bride and groom meet for the first time at their wedding, in some cultures and tribes, but this is America, is this normal for America? With this “arrangement” there is much dependence upon a group of various therapist (psychologist, sex therapist, and a spiritualist) to make the “perfect” match, this is different from those dating websites where the process actually involves “marriage” or potential “marriage.”

I feel there’s enough judgement on looks, etc., why add on to the “pressure?” If “marriage” does not happen, it’s not the end of the world, one does not have to give up hope, however, but life goes on, a person may have to accept life as is, live life the best way possible, never give up hope, and enjoy life despite wanting to be married or wanting a child.

I already told you that this is something I would not do, would you participate in this type of arrangement?


What I love about summer….











Yes I am spoiled, I love my air conditioner and don’t know if I could live without it. Which I guess living on an island or maybe even visiting an island would be out of the question unless an air-conditioner is available, not a fan or a ceiling fan, it has to be an air-conditioner, one of the best inventions ever.  Instead of going to a far away island, which for some strange reason I would like to do, I could print out lovely pictures of beautiful islands, sit in front of my air-conditioner, sipping lemonade or a sangria and imagine that I’m on a distant island, sitting on a lounge chair, with white sand at my feet, watching crystal blue ocean water and ocean breeze touching my face or better yet the cool refreshing air-conditioner blowing upon my hot face.


Bucket List


Former President George H.W. Bush decided to celebrate his 90th birthday by making a tandem parachute jump out of a helicopter. A 90-year-old woman decided to finish her bucket list by also making a tandem parachute jump from a small plane.  Bless their hearts, but if I should be so lucky to make it to the age 90 the last thing I want to do is to make a tandem jump over 1,000 feet from a small plane.  For my 90th birthday, I want the biggest devil’s food chocolate cake with chocolate frosting, a case of red wine, and two pizza pies. If I’m going to die from a heart attack I rather it be from the joy and romance of food and drink instead of being scared to death from fear that this 1,000 feet jump will actually be the death of me.

A new society…Book Review

Imagine living in a society where your right to an education is denied. You are denied access to books, magazines, newspapers anyway that you can educate or entertain yourself. Also imagine being denied any mode to make yourself feel beautiful even if it’s just as simple as applying lotion. Being denied the simple things that many of us take for granted, how would we be able to adjust, if we can’t wash or conditioned our hair when we want, could not read a book or magazine, everything we do or every place we need to go is monitored or scheduled by an established government. Now imagine these rules only applying to women of a certain class. Can you envision living in a society where your pride, your dignity does not matter. A society where you worth is valued by your ability to reproduce. This is the basis of the story of the “The Handmaid’s Tale” by Margaret Atwood, one of the many books on my to-read list.

Despite the plot of the story, it was an enjoyable read (at least in my opinion). It’s considered a fantasy genre because of a creation of a new “futuristic” society. It begins with the overthrow of the United States, the President and many members of the Congress are killed, the United States Constitution is abolished and a new regime is implanted. The society is “managed” by a militia group, where various Commanders take lead of the country. During the take over many families are captured, women are separated from their families, the younger women were trained as handmaids so that they supply the needs of the Commanders and Commanders’ Wives.

The story was told from the point of view of a handmaid named Offred, which means this handmaid was of Fred one of the high Commanders. She gave her account of the lives of the other handmaids, her close relationship with another handmaid named Ofglen, living in this military society, her life, her private thoughts, and historical accounts about how she arrived in this controlled society.

I did not get a chance to finish this book, apparently it’s a highly requested book at the public library, however, this book is highly recommended. Through reading this book it would make you appreciate your life and those little things that are easily taken for granted such the accessibility to education, reading a book or newspaper, scanning a magazine, even the luxury of applying moisturizer lotion to your skin, those things that can easily be revoked without notice no matter the protest.

It’s all about the coffee

I’ve updated this post because I keep forgetting that I’m not just posting “local” but universal, so here’s the change. I apologize for the inconvenience.

Everyone knows Starbuck, this coffeehouse is not only nationwide but throughout the world. Wawa is one of those convenient markets like 7-11 or maybe some Sunoco’s there are smaller version of these stores throughout some cities most of them however are connected with gas stations. In comparing Starbucks to a convenient store like Wawa, my choice would be Wawa.

Starbucks v.s. Wawa that has been all the rave and probably the “fight” will always continue. My co-workers and some friends that was all they talked about, Starbucks this, Starbucks that, I was a Wawa fan, nothing could tear me away. So I decided to give Starbucks a try at $6 it should be some amazing coffee.

The first thing I tried was the hot chocolate and I loved it. It was $4 and I thought to myself it better be “awesome.” Then I tried the coffee. I did just about all flavors and types: cappuccino, frappuccino, lattes and let me say, I’m not impressed. I know everyone is about to boo, I may lose some endorsements, get email threats, and so on but everyone taste is different (that’s why this world is so magnificent). I was expecting this coffee to have some amazing flair and I was let down and I felt my money going down the drain. So I will stick to my Wawa and I will welcome email threats or any other kind of threat possible. You have your coffee, Starbucks, and I have mine, Wawa.